POSTED BY DANIELLE625 ON JULY 14TH, 2011 AT 8:42 AM
Yes, I have Tattoos and a two month old!
In the past couple weeks I have seen a couple posts, and publications around the internet talking about Moms with tattoos. I have to say, I didn’t click on any of them because the titles alone sent my blood boiling as I am the main character in their outlandish tales – A Tattooed Mother.
So I started thinking about what could really be said, and what kind of assumptions could be made. I mean, in reality we know what happens when you makeassumptions too!
But does having a tattoo instantly make you a bad parent, or does the ink that was placed into your skin suddenly make your parenting choices, and judgment clouded? I mean really people, are we going out on that limb?
I am sure there are people out there who have had momentary lapses in judgement that have resulted in a stupid tattoo they hate a month after the fact or let their better judgement slip when deciding on a piece of artwork… but the majority of us who do have tattoos took serious time to sit down and plan them, design them, and have meaning behind them, the same we do with the choices we make while parenting our child.
In life, we all have bad choices we have made, whether it was a past relationship or just a friendship that ended the way we wouldn’t have liked it to… but does having regret send us into the bad parent category? Of course not, because then we would all be bad parents!
Why not start from birth teaching our children acceptance of others, whether they choose to have children, and tattoos, or may just dress in a manner we never would ourselves.
To answer the new question, and Mom war du jour … Yes Moms can have tattoos and be awesome, responsible, loving mothers to their children!
Is this just another example of ridiculous mom wars?
By: me
Yes, I understand that people have opinions on everything, but when someone questions parenting skills on tattoos, I really just think it is more of judgement more than anything else.
It is the parents without tattoos who actually think that body art or the expression of art is a direct link to how someone parents.
My sister is one of those people. She is a straight laced lawyer (who is great, and I love her), but we are as different as night and day. She doesn't judge me for my tattoos, but she did ask me a question when she started having kids: "What do I tell my kids about your tattoos and tongue ring?" My response: "People are different, and express themselves in different ways." And to me, that is all it really is. I dress nice, I work in a professional field, I volunteer at my kids school and helped out with a community center, so there is no way that my expression of body art is in anyway influencing the way I raise my kids.
When I asked my friend Monica what she thought about parenting and kids her response was "Their like kids in the sense of they like to multiply."
That my friends is the opinion of parents with tattoos and the most amazing children in the world.
